This article was first published Forbes17:13 | Aug 23 , 2016 | Luis E. Romero -Startup
Most people have a strong desire to be successful. Many times, however, we do not know exactly what success means or how to pursue it. This introduces much of the confusion and frustration we experience in life. This is why, as a business mentor, a major part of my job is to help people figure out who they are, what they want and how to achieve it. This assists them in shaping a clear notion of success and facilitates their pursuit thereof.
After mentoring hundreds of business executives and entrepreneurs, I have realized that one of the most common obstacles in becoming successful is the unconscious wish forovernight success and having it all. Such wishes make people impatient, shortcut-minded and capricious, all of which have devastating effects on performance and judgement. Debunking these myths is key.
About overnight success
In essence, overnight success does not exist. At the very least, it is statistically so rare that people would have a better chance at “succeeding” by playing the lottery. In this regard, I share the following two lessons with my mentees:
In conclusion, the idea of overnight success is, by all means, a misconception. Planning one’s life around it is plain senseless.
About having it all
Also, having it all is a very misleading ambition. In this regard, I share the following two lessons with my mentees:
Life is about making choices. When you choose one option, you are also saying no to many others. You can have what you want, but you cannot want it all and have it all. Or, as Peter Senge said, “You can have your cake and eat it too, but not at the same time.” If you really, really have it all, it means that you have had both victory and defeat; celebration and disappointment; abundance and lack; love and heartbreak, and so on—and you have learned to appreciate it all and learn from it. But that is a completely different notion from the popular I want to have it all.
Every single day, I get at least one email or social media invite saying success is around the corner if I just sign up for some dubious “business opportunity.” I am impressed, and not in a good way, by how many people are so quickly seduced by such nonsense. What is worse, they end up becoming longtime followers of stupid philosophies and virtual communities that allegedly teach you how to “hack” life.
I find it incredible when I meet people who have been bouncing from one pyramid structure to another, from one online millionaires’ club to another, from one nutritional shake to another, and still think they will soon find the right trick to “hack” life. It breaks my heart.
Here is the golden nugget: The only way to “hack” life is by working hard. If you are a shortcut kind of a person, you will always end up trapped in ethically questionable practices that will lead to failure or shame. If you really want to be successful, you must develop a loving and respectful attitude towards life’s challenges. In this regard, I suggest you take into account the following:
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